As a heads up, this is going to be a long text heavy post...
I'm going to change gears quite a bit for this post, as I recently read something that has once again brought up a massive, crippling fear of mine. So, let's start with my secret fear so you'll understand why this story hits home with me in a very tangible way. Okay, here we go, I have a life long fear of one day dying alone. I've always known that as an only child, this could be a real possibility. This isn't a new fear either, it's something that I've worried about since I was about 7years old. Now, I realize that a 7 year old worrying about dying alone is probably odd, but I was raised with a really open attitude toward death and I've always been an excessive planner, so I guess those things together set me up for it. I've been told for years by friends that they'd be there for me if something happened to Nathan first and we didn't have any children, but (as bad as this sounds) friends are quite different from family. My other only children friends understand that concept, but my friends with siblings never seen to. I could go on and on about this and the various reasons for me feeling this way, but it's one of those long conversations that needs to involve a face to face conversation and few glasses of wine. Anyway, this story struck a chord with me, so I'd like to share it.
This
article was taken from The LA Times and was written by Andrew Blankstein.
Mummified Body of Former Playboy Playmate Yvette Vickers Found In Benedict Canyon Home
Yvette Vickers, an early Playboy playmate whose credits as a B-movie actress included such cult films as “Attack of the 50-Foot Woman” and “Attack of the Giant Leeches,” was found dead last week at her Benedict Canyon home. Her body appears to have gone undiscovered for months, police said.
Vickers, 82, had not been seen for a long time. A neighbor discovered her body in an upstairs room of her Westwanda Drive home on April 27. Its mummified state suggests she could have been dead for close to a year, police said.
The official cause of death will by determined by the Los Angeles county coroner's office, but police said they saw no sign of foul play.
Vickers had lived in the 1920s-era stone and wood home for decades, and it served as the background for some of her famous modeling pictures. But over time it had become dilapidated, exposed in some places to the elements.
Susan Savage, an actress, went to check on Vickers after noticing old letters and cobwebs in her elderly neighbor's mailbox.
"The letters seemed untouched and were starting to yellow," Savage said. "I just had a bad feeling."
After pushing open a barricaded front gate and scaling a hillside, Savage peered through a broken window with another piece of glass taped over the hole. She decided to enter the house after seeing a shock of blond hair, which turned out to be a wig.
The inside of the home was in disrepair and it was hard to move through the rooms because boxes containing what appeared to be clothes, junk mail and letters formed barriers, Savage said. Eventually, she made her way upstairs and found a room with a small space heater still on.
She was looking at a cordless phone that appeared to have been knocked off its cradle when she first saw the body on the floor, she said. Savage had known Vickers but the remains were unrecognizable, she said.
She remembered her neighbor as an elegant women in a broad straw hat, dressed in white, with flowing blond hair and "a warm smile."
"She kept to herself, had friends and seemed like a very independent spirit," Savage said. "To the end she still got cards and letter from all over the world requesting photos and still wanting to be her friend."
Savage said the neighbors felt terrible."We've all been crying about this," she said. "Nobody should be left alone like that."
This isn't the first time I've read something terrible like this. Not too long ago, a similar fate was met by Juanita Goggins, a prominent civil rights leader. She froze to death in her home and was not discovered for 2 weeks.
It just pains me to hear when people die alone in their homes with no one with them at the moment of passing. It seems unjust and cruel and sadly, it happens everyday. So, if you have an older person living in your area that you suspect may be alone or that may have infrequent visitors, please introduce yourself and show interest in them. I realize some people are solitary and that's fine, but just keep an eye out. It doesn't take a lot of effort and could really make a difference in someone's life and death. No one should be left unnoticed like these two women.